Do Relationships Get Shot Like An Arrow?

They say “An arrow can be shot only by pulling it backward. So when life is dragging you back with difficulties, it means that it’s going to launch you into something great.”  Lately, I’ve been wondering if that’s true of relationships too– maybe that’s where the cupid myth came from?

When you are in the new stages of a relationship and dating– there’s always a slight pull back period.  From my experience, that pull back period either flings you forward or pulls you back too far and the arrow falls to the ground.

It makes me wonder, how do you make sure your relationship arrow goes forward instead of falling to the ground?

Be a Friend– Share Thoughts Carefully

Friends share everything right? WRONG.

If a friend is worried about something and you don’t know either way, but she really wants to be happy any enjoy what she’s worried about– don’t lead her to question those thoughts and worry.  Friends don’t introduce unneeded negative thoughts into another friends mind.

There’s enough negativity in the world– we don’t need our friends of all people adding to the negative thoughts we fight daily.

Support your friends, disagree with them if it calls for it, break them down gently, but do not offer a negative opinion or thought before you know the story she’s worrying about.

Why Try If He Isn’t That Into You?

I try to keep the thoughts of others out of my head and I try to keep others opinions from making me over analyze situations.  But, let’s be real– I’m only human so that doesn’t work as easily as I’d hope.

However, after a conversation with a friend got under my skin recently I started thinking.  (Basically the conversation alluded to the fact that this guy who won’t but a title on our relationship isn’t really that into me)  But before you say thinking isn’t good– hear me out.

What if he isn’t as into me as his actions claim?

  • Does the fact that he isn’t as into me as he acts negate the fact that I’m happy with him? NOPE.
  • Does him not being so into me change that he makes me smile when he tests me? No.
  • Does it change the fact that we have fun together? Not really.
  • Does it change that I’m enjoying things how they are? Definitely Not.

So what does it change?  I can’t seem to think of anything…

Yes… I may get hurt, but that’s a risk I’d have regardless of his feelings– even if he is head over heels.  The thing is– he may not be that into me, but he may very well be.

Why turn and run on the chance he isn’t when there’s a greater likelihood that he is?

Dear Future Boyfriend… I Could Easily Be Wrapped Around Your Finger

Dear Future Boyfriend,

While there are some thing you could do that would have me head over heels mad for you… there are some little things that can get me undeniably wrapped around your finger too.

Just to make it easier on you, here are a few hints. (A list that will hopefully help other men with their girls too)

Big Things:

  • Take me to eat at the Be Our Guest Restaurant
  • Walk with me under the oaks at Oak Alley Plantation
  • Wait for me as I finish a half marathon with something that will make me forget how bad my body feels (hugs, kisses, flowers, a poster)
  • Fill my truck bed with pillows and star-gaze with me
  • Teach me about something you are interested in (If you dirt bike, teach me… if you like hockey, teach me)

Small Things:

  • Send me good morning or good night texts at random
  • Change your profile picture on Facebook to one of us
  • Hold my hand in public
  • Go to church with me
  • Kiss me hello and goodbye

If you ever do any of these things, big or small– just know it’ll make me fall deeper for you, yes, but the reason I’m yours is because of who you are.

Love always,
Your Future Girlfriend