23 Things To Do Instead Of Getting Engaged Before You’re 23

Wander Onwards

Marriage

As 2013 wraps up, I’ve been noticing more and more people getting engaged and/or married under the age of 23.

I get it.

It’s cold outside… you want to cuddle and talk about your feelings… life after graduation is a tough transition… so why not just cut to the chase and get married, right?  It’s hip. It’s cool. You get to wear clothing that wouldn’t normally be socially acceptable at the dive bar you frequent with the $5 beers.  Eff it. YOLO. YOMO! You only marry once…

Oh wait.

The divorce rate for young couples is more than twice the national average. Divorce is no longer a staple in a midlife crisis, but rather, something that SEVENTEEN Magazine should probably be printing on. Headlines could read,

“How to budget for your prom AND your wedding in the same year!”

“What’s HOT: Kids raising Kids.”

“Why your Mom doesn’t really…

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5 Ways To Keep A Keeper

James Michael Sama

In this day and age, good people are hard to find. What’s even harder, is finding a good person who you can connect with intimately, and vice versa.

Gentlemen, when it comes to relationships, we can do better. We have to do better. If we want to be happy, and to make our women happy, we need to step our game up and do what it takes to hold on to a good woman when we do find one.

Needless to say, there are infinite ways to do this, but here are five to start with.

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Communicate with her.

Communication is the key to solidifying multiple parts of a relationship. What makes you happy? What are you going through that you need help with? How can your significant other support you?

Men, we are notorious for not expressing our feelings effectively, but how else do you expect to bond and…

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One Breathe at a Time.

I used to love this day. It is one of my best friends birthdays.  So why don’t I love it anymore?  He was killed two years ago from five days from now.  

I woke up this morning in an amazing mood, then I remembered what today was… but I’ve realized something.  He’s not gone.  He’s the best guardian angel a girl could ever ask for.  I’ve felt his guidance in many steps the past two years, felt him telling me that things will be okay when I wasn’t sure.

It’s funny that I didn’t remember his birthday, because last night I was having the conversation about how blessed my life has been this year and how much things have changed– almost as if someone was helping me out upstairs.  That all makes sense today.

I’ll miss you forever, but I know you are with me. I’ve just got to miss you and remember you one breathe at a time. I love you.

Why You Need Higher Standards

James Michael Sama

People often tell me that my articles portray unrealistic figures or people, who don’t really exist.

No man can live up to the 10 Ways To Know You’re Dating A True Gentleman, and no woman fills the 10 Ways To Know Your Woman Is A Keeper.

Geeze, nobody? 7 Billion people in the world, and, nobody? 

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I know, for myself, I may not always meet the standards that I set for myself, but I can say that I sure as hell try. Nobody is perfect, and perhaps filling every single point in these articles, all the time, is ‘impossible’ – as much as I hate to use that word.

Though, as Vince Lombardi said: Perfection is not attainable, but if we chase perfection we can catch excellence.

You, my friend, deserve someone who will wake up every morning and look you in the eye with the pledge of being the best that they can…

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15 Dating Tips For My Future Son

Nathan Hancock

I hope my son is able to check these thoughts out one day about how the 21-year-old version of his dad saw dating. Before marriage, commitment, or serious relationships. Just a dude trying to figure things out, one thing at a time. Here are 15 things I think my unborn son should know about dating, long before he ever starts doing it:

Essential question: Why are you doing this, really? Be real with yourself. Ask yourself this question early and often in dating. Keep yourself in check. Why do you want to take this girl out on a date? If the answer involves you getting temporary thrill and emotional jollies, check out and reevaluate.

Sack up and do it. Potential dates aren’t going to take a number and form a line to your right. As much as every man who ever lived wishes this was the case, it’s not. We live…

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14 Dating Tips For My Future Daughter

Nathan Hancock

A little while ago I put out 25 thoughts I had for my future daughter about life. While this isn’t quite 25, I thought it’d be a good idea to get some thoughts down about things I would want her to know about dating. This is bound to be an uncomfortable subject to approach when the time comes, but I figure if I’m able to look back on the way I saw it when I was younger, old-Nathan will be able to see it with more understanding eyes.

I wrote this with many girls I know in mind– like the hot ones, the stupid ones, the teen moms, the lost ones, the happy ones, the ones who have hurt me, and the ones who have made me happy. It’s my hope that she can one day benefit from what I’ve been able to take in thus far about this big…

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Worry-Less, Worry-More

It’s funny. The longer I’m with the guy I’ve been dating, the less I worry about little things– does he like me? is the thinking about me? etc.  But I’ve noticed recently, that I begin to worry more about the fact that I’m not worrying about those little things.  Isn’t that a catch-22?  

I’m not worry about the moment-to-moment things, but I do worry that we’ve never had a fight. I worry that I don’t have anything to worry about. I worry about things that don’t matter, because some day they will– but I don’t even know if we’ll be together that someday.

Maybe I just need to accept that I’m a worrier.