I’m Getting Married, Yet I Still Hate Weddings

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Two years ago, I won a prize at a Trivia Night in Edinburgh, Scotland after naming my team “All of my friends are getting married, and I’m just getting drunk.” My life plan barely spanned past my college graduation and included lots of travel and copious career choices that all made “saving the world” and “destitute” synonymous. I dismissed the Pinterest board “My Wedding!” to save space for “Insatiable Traveler,” “Future Adventures across the US,” and “Future Bartending Skills.”

At twenty-three, only at the beginning of my twenty-somethings, I have managed to traverse across 30 countries, 5 continents, and 4 wonders of the world. I took culinary courses in Italy, Bollywood dance classes in the north of India, and even escaped possible arrest at immigration in Costa Rica upon returning from the World Cup in Brazil. I managed to find an entry-level nonprofit job that helps me save the…

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The Importance Of Class And The Modern Woman

James Michael Sama

If you have spent any time on this website before, you are aware that there are hundreds of articles discussing how modern men conduct ourselves, and how we can all work to become better and do better.

What you will see substantially less of, is discussions about the modern woman and the very real, but under-addressed issue that an ambitious, mature, self-aware man will only be interested in a woman he can see as an equal and one who is on “his level” mentally and emotionally.


Many people have called me out on my seemingly one-sided conversations of the genders, so I am resurrecting some old ideas into a new article here.

I often think about the years I had spent in the “club scene” before I finally lost interest in it. I think about the party girls of our generation. I think about the constant Facebook statuses I see pop…

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21 Signs The Woman You’re Dating Is A Keeper

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1. She doesn’t feel the need to check in with you at every second of the day to see where you are — partially because she trusts you (as trust is kind of important in any relationship) but also because she has stuff to do, too, and she’s going to spend her time accordingly.

2. She carries her own bags if she’s strong enough to do so, not just for the arm workout, but because those things in her arms — from the money in her wallet to the bags she’s hefting — are things she earned with her hard work.

3. She understands that though it’s nice when you open a door for her, it is in no way something we are expected to do in modern society — and she can open doors, both literally and metaphorically, for herself.

4. She refuses to apologize for her body, or change its…

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