Casual Dating– Is it real?

I was approached by someone not quite ready to move into a relationship, with good reasons, about causally dating.  At first I thought this was going to be a big issue and I’d end up heartbroken, because I didn’t want to casually date this guy– I wanted a real relationship.  To be honest, it’s too early to tell how it’s working, but I’ve got some initial thoughts.

We aren’t causally dating.  We are dating without a title.

I say this, because:

  • We each are only dating each other.
  • We go on dates.
  • We hold hands, he puts his arm around me, etc in public and around his friends.
  • We text throughout the week.
  • We hangout on weekends together
  • He texts me when he’s drunk.
  • We have plans for the semi-not-so-near-future.

Umm… last I checked, all that was dating?  The only thing not going on here is a line on Facebook saying “In a Relationship with—” and introductions that start “This is my boyfriend/girlfriend….”

Casual dating, I thought it was possible– but I’m learning, it’s really just a relationship without the pressure from within, only pressure from society.

If you aren’t happy, change it!

If you aren’t happy… why don’t you do something about it?

I’m not talking about a bad day here and there– but truly, day-in-day-out something is upsetting you.  Maybe you don’t like your job or where you live or your body.  Forgive me if I’m wrong, but all three of those things can easily be changed.  If you aren’t happy with your job, there are thousands of posts for other jobs out there!  If you don’t like where you live, you aren’t a tree and you don’t have roots– put plans in motion to move!  If you aren’t happy with your physical appearance, eat better and workout!

So much of what dictates if we are happy or sad is fixable, it’s our mindset… glass full or empty.  Change your paradigm, work on the negative things in your life, focus on the happier things in life!  You can control if you are happy or sad 99% of the time.

So stop complaining or being bummed, and be happy!